It’s a quote from an old movie from which I have some fond memories. While the movie is more than a bit campy, the phrase is a good mnemonic better than “Remember to be nice.” In this time of uncertainty, being kind is more than holding the door. Kindness comes in many forms: a smile, a kind word, or even listening to someone who needs it. Kindness with intention and no expectation is a powerful force.

Being kind to someone you don't know is a lesson in personal excellence. Strangers can be anyone you pass on the street or sit next to on the subway, but they're still strangers because you have yet to have any prior interactions with them. A contact of acknowledgment with a positive intent leaves people lifted. They had no expectations, and nor should you of their acceptance. Kindness is a leaf on the river. You pick it up or don’t, but it was there for you with no expectations. It then moves on its way. The impact of kindness isn’t measured by its duration. It may be nothing more than brief eye contact. You may not wish to give to the homeless person you pass, but acknowledging them may do more than you know. People want to know they’ve been seen.

Kindness doesn't require interaction. It may be the things you don’t do. People need their space from time to time. With strangers, it may be giving way or allowing them to be alone with their thoughts. Being considerate of their feelings, especially when you don't know their backstory or what’s happening now, is vital too. 

Kindness is a choice. It requires more effort than passivity and may push you out of your comfort zone. For a time, even a moment, we are putting others first when we could be indifferent. I ask you to embrace that choice and be conscious of its effect on the world. See what happens after 30 days of being excellent to each other